When Behavior Becomes Desperate: Insights and Interventions (Guest: Dr. James Sutton)

Threat and danger don’t even have to be real to be a problem. There are youngsters (adults, too) who, for any number reasons, live in a constant state of alert. Behaviors of others toward them, even something as mild as one step too many into their personal space, brings a reation that hardly fits the circumstance.

Because this behavior is based on survival and fueled by fear, typical responses and discipline easily can worsen subsequent behavior as it increases the perceived threat. It’s a vicious cycle, and it’s difficult to stop. Exactly how do we negotiate with one’s need to survive?

Our guest on this program, The Changing Behavior Network’s founder and host, Dr. James Sutton, calls this Desperate Behavior, for that’s precisely what it is. Considering all of a school’s students, desperate behavior is rare. It occurs in only about 1-3% of the entire population, but it accounts for the majority of the problems, as well as the lingering misery of affected youngsters.

Since traditional approaches often fail, something different is needed, and that’s the focus of this program. It’s also addressed in Dr. Sutton’s newest book, The Changing Behavior Book.

A nationally recognized child and adolescent psychologist, author and speaker, Dr. James Sutton is in demand for his expetise on emotionally and behaviorally troubled youngsters, and his skill for sharing it. A former Special Education teacher, he is the founder and host of The Changing Behavior Network, a popular internet radio program supporting young people and their families. Every month he publishes The Changing Behavior Digest, offering tips on managing difficult children and teens. Both resouces are available at no cost through his website. (23:58)

(Dr. Sutton has made an arrangement with the publisher for listeners to receive a FREE copy of his bestseller, 101 Ways to Make Your Classroom Special, when they order a copy of The Changing Behavior Book. For more information or to order, CLICK HERE and use the password supplied at the end of this program.)

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Facing the Emotional Challenges of Family Life (Guest: Loren Buckner)

Being a good mother or father might just be the most important job a person could ever have. Interestingly enough, there’s no job description or operations manual, yet the successes and failures of parents can last for generations. If there was ever a job where it mattered to do it well, being a parent is it.

Whether coping with the challenges of infancy or adolescence, parents frequently ask the same question: “Why didn’t someone tell me what this was REALLY going to be like?” This program poses insights and answers to the issues of the question.

Our guest on this program, Loren Buckner, tells us that parenthood not only rearranges our everyday life, it shakes up our internal world as well. Loren suggests that, perhaps more than any other time in our lives, parenthood causes us to reflect on who WE are. We grow as parents as we better understand ourselves.

Loren is a parent and an experienced psychotherapist living in Florida. She is the author of the book, ParentWise: The Emotional Challenges of Family Life and How to Deal with Them. Her website is www.LorenBuckner.com. (26:51)

 

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Attitude Matters: Never Give Up (Guest: LaDene Mayville)

LaDeneMayvillephotoWhen we’re old enough to realize that the world out there isn’t always kind and safe, we begin to understand that struggle, difficulty and adversity are simply a part of the whole experience we call LIFE.

How we manage difficulty says a lot about us, but how we teach and encourage our children to manage difficulty says the rest. What better gift could a parent give a child or a teacher give a student?

LMayvillecoverOur guest on this program, LaDene Mayville, not only knows this subject well, she believes strongly that the defining characteristic for overcoming difficulty is attitude. “When we encounter challenges and disappointments one after another,” says LaDene, “it’s so easy to give up hope and want to quit. But if we don’t get back on our feet and keep on moving, we may never know the blessings that could be just around the corner.”

Drawing on her experiences as a storytime teacher of kindergarteners in an inner-city school, as well as her desire to encourage others as they navigate difficult circumstances, LaDene authored her first book, Hallie the Harvester Ant: Never Give Up. It’s a children’s book with a message for us all. (27:17)

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Encouraging Families to Flourish (Guest: Dr. Daniel Trussell)

What is the secret of families that thrive and do well? Actually, it’s no secret at all. Families that flourish do well because they work at it. These families stand in sharp contrast to others that seem to be barely hanging on. For them, the goal is simple: survival.

Since no family really WANTS to flounder and fail, what are the characteristics of successful families, and how can they be achieved? Can families actually learn to improve and experience positive purpose and growth? Yes, they can.

Dr. Daniel Trussell, the guest on this program, has been studying flourishing families for years. He will share how positive individual traits like respecting others, communicating effectively and exercising coping skills and resilience apply to family units, also. Families CAN improve, and even flourish, and Dr. Trussell will offer his thoughts and experiences for making it happen.

Dr. Trussell is a Licensed Professional Counselor and positive psychology coach. He has spent his career helping individuals and families reduce and prevent mental health problems using a combination of cognitive behavioral therapy, applied positive psychology and mindfulness training. From his deep experience, he has a clear picture of the concerns and the costs, as well as a vision for solutions.

Dr. Trussell is the CEO of Webstar Behavioral Health and author of the new book, How Families Flourish: A Guide to Optimal Family Functioning Using Applied Positive Psychology. (29:18)

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Raising Happy, Confident Kids, Part Two (Guest: Jonathan Hewitt)

JonathanHewittphotoParents want their children to be happy, of course. But descriptions of “happy” can vary widely. Folks like author Dennis Prager (Happiness is a Serious Problem) have been telling us for years how there can be serious issues with how we chase after happiness, and how we try to capture it for our children.

Jonathan Hewitt, our guest on this program, takes another giant step in exposing something that is hurting our kids; he calls it the American Happiness Formula. Here it is: Look Good + Perform Well + Get Approval = Happiness. As a result of dependence on “outside” measures of accomplishment and success, our children are showing more stress, anxiety and depression than ever before. In a refeshingly candid fashion, Jonathan shares from personal experience the harm the American Happiness Formula can create in young people and their families.

Hewitt_cover_withEndorsement.inddFortunately, there is hope, and Jonathan offers plenty of it. His training, extensive research and experience in psychology, martial arts and life education have led to some welcomed answers. In this in-depth, two-part interview, Jonathan outlines a formula for happiness that emphasizes increased focus, confidence, resilience and social intelligence.

Jonathan and his wife, Lana, teach their “growth from within” principles to young people at their Life Ki-do Academy in Austin, Texas. Their success over the years has been remarkable. The Hewitts have now shared with parents what they’ve learned and what they teach. It’s in their new book, Life Ki-do Parenting: Tools to Raise Happy, Confident Kids from the Inside Out. (22:07)

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Raising Happy, Confident Kids, Part One (Guest: Jonathan Hewitt)

JonathanHewittphotoParents want their children to be happy, of course. But descriptions of “happy” can vary widely. Folks like author Dennis Prager (Happiness is a Serious Problem) have been telling us for years how there can be serious issues with how we chase after happiness, and how we try to capture it for our children.

Jonathan Hewitt, our guest on this program, takes another giant step in exposing something that is hurting our kids; he calls it the American Happiness Formula. Here it is: Look Good + Perform Well + Get Approval = Happiness. As a result of dependence on “outside” measures of accomplishment and success, our children are showing more stress, anxiety and depression than ever before. In a refeshingly candid fashion, Jonathan shares from personal experience the harm the American Happiness Formula can create in young people and their families.

Hewitt_cover_withEndorsement.inddFortunately, there is hope, and Jonathan offers plenty of it. His training, extensive research and experience in psychology, martial arts and life education have led to some welcomed answers. In this in-depth, two-part interview, Jonathan outlines a formula for happiness that emphasizes increased focus, confidence, resilience and social intelligence.

Jonathan and his wife, Lana, teach their “growth from within” principles to young people at their Life Ki-do Academy in Austin, Texas. Their success over the years has been remarkable. The Hewitts have now shared with parents what they’ve learned and what they teach. It’s in their new book, Life Ki-do Parenting: Tools to Raise Happy, Confident Kids from the Inside Out. (22:07)

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Teens, Drugs and Alcohol (Guest: Judge Tom Jacobs)

It has been said that our young people are our greatest natural resource. Whatever affects their welfare and safety ultimately affects us all.

In a previous interview with retired juvenile specialist, Judge Tom Jacobs, we discussed issues and concerns regarding teens and their use and abuse of technology and the internet. Judge Tom is back with us, and the topic is a serious one, indeed: our teens and tweens, and problems and heartache associated with drugs and alcohol. These concerns deepen when that drug or alcohol-impaired young person is behind the wheel of a vehicle, or when judgement is affected to the point that poor decisions and resulting behavior create devasting and irreversible consequences.

The progression of substance abuse has reached an alarming state. Syntetic marijuana, synthetic stimulants, and other substances are difficult the control as they skirt the law. These substances are dangerous; leaving in their wake permanent brain damage, physical disabilities, and even death. Judge Tom will tell us how we can step up and address this serious problem that so affects our young people.

Tom Jacobs is a retired juvenile judge, having spent 23 years on the bench. He is the founder and moderator of AsktheJudge.info, a teen-law website and go-to source for and about young people and the laws that affect them. He’s also the author of the books, What Are My Rights? and Teen Cyberbullying Investigated.

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Helping the Severely Depressed Youngster (Guest: Michael Bushman)

MikeBushmanphotoSevere depression in our young people is a serious concern. A sense of hopelessness can cause a youngster to feel that things for them will never be any better, that their circumstances can no longer be tolerated. At that point, even suicide makes sense to them.

And they are reluctant to talk about it.

What are these young people experiencing, and why? What are some of the signs that could suggest they are struggling with depression? What can we do to help? How can we offer hope that deeply difficult moments rarely last, and that they are not worth the cost of a life?

MBushmanbookMike Bushman, this program’s guest, has a deeply personal and powerful perspective on severe depression in young people. The insights and interventions he shares can and do make a difference.

For 25 years, Mike worked as a congressional aide, lobbyist, press secretary, investor relations executive, corporate and marketing communications leader and global policy head. Then, in 2012, he retired to return to his first passion: writing.

Mike has authored two novels reflecting the future we would face if we as a country continue on our current divisive political path. His newest book, Suicide Escape, is a unique combination of novella and memoir addressing deeply personal stories of teenage depression and despair. The book reflects what Mike has learned and what he wishes he knew and understood as a young teen dealing with thoughts of suicide. (27:03)

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Easing the Challenges Facing Military Kids (Guest: Trevor Romain)

TrevorRomainphotoFor our US military personnel and their dependents, the notion of “home” is temporary. It changes every few years as whole families pack up and move, again.

Deployment or change of duty station can be tough on everyone involved, but the challenges to military children can be substantial. Friendships made are “disconnected” when it’s time again to move, creating the need to adjust all over again. Contact with grandparents and extended family can be postponed, sometimes for years.

TrevorKidsBut the challenges for these kids doesn’t stop there. Reintegration of the active-duty parent back into the home can be difficult, as well as service-related injury (physical or psychological), or the loss of that parent. Issues for the children can, and do, run deep. Their struggles with confusion, depression, fear, anxiety and anger behavior are real.

Trevor Romain, our guest on this program, serves military kids; he knows them well. Trevor and Comfort Crew for Military Kids, a foundation he co-created, have partnered with the USO to create a special traveling program for military youngsters: With You All the Way. Within the past 18 months, Trevor has presented messages of undertanding, encouragement and hope to over 110,000 on US military bases all over the world. He will share with us how best to help and support these young people and their families.

DeployKitA best-selling author and illustrator, Trevor has written an award-winning series of self-help books for children on a number of relevant topics. In fact, his work has been translated into 16 different languages. As an inspirational humorist and motivational speaker, Trevor has captured the hearts of children and those who serve them, for the past 20 years. (Pictured here is a kit given to military children when a parent deploys.) [27:38]

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Handwriting: A Case for Cursive and HFT (Guest: Treyce Montoya)

TMontoyaphotoAt least 46 of the states in the U.S. have eliminated classes in cursive handwriting from the public school curriculum. Many folks, including our guest on this program, believe the removal of instruction in that skill is a mistake, and that we will be paying a price for it.

Our guest, Treyce Montoya, holistic psychologist and experienced handwriting expert, analyst and forensic specialist, strongly believes that cursive handwriting brings more benefit than communication value. For instance, the “connectedness” of cursive writing supports a youngster’s emotional and behavioral health.

TMontoyabookTreyce has developed a therapeutic intervention called HFT, Handwriting Formation Therapy, that helps youngsters control volatile emotions like anger and rage. A controlled study in Texas proved the Montoya Method to be successful with chronic juvenile offenders. The results speak for themselves: There has been zero recidivism with these youngsters. Subsequent work with this method continues to produce strong, evidence-based results.

Consistent with her extensive experience and expertise, Treyce has written many books on the subject of handwriting and what it means. Today we’re featuring her book, Teach it Write NOW! Understanding the “Handwriting and Brain Connection” while learning the Montoya Method. (27:17)

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