Stepfamilies: Blessing the Blending (Guest: Valerie J. Lewis Coleman)

Valerie J Lewis Coleman BP BlackAnyone, parent, child or teen, who has ever been part of a blended family knows there often are difficulties and obstacles to making a stepfamily work as as it should. Discouragement mingled with frustration shouldn’t be the name of the game, but often  it is. The job of drawing together a family across multiple households is a challenge not suited to the weak of heart or spirit.

But it CAN be done, according to our guest on this program, Valerie J. Lewis Coleman. She has, as they say, “Been there!” Faced with the struggle to parent five children from three different households, Valerie was often overwhelmed, almost to the point of giving up.

Blended Families An Anthology CoverLooking back on those struggles, Valerie shares how her experiences of heartaches, frustrations and sleepless nights were but the labor pangs required to birth her passion to help others stop what she calls the “Stepfamily Maddness.” From her own journey, plus the experiences and contributions of others going through similar circumstances, Valerie compiled and edited a book, Blended Families: An Anthology. This work, and the wisdom gleaned from its pages, well-represent this topic of blended families.

With over 20 years of experience in families and relationships, Valerie has given advice on varying stepfamily issues, including Baby-Mamma Drama, defiant children and a really tough one: disapproving in-laws. Also, as an established author in her own right, Valerie encourages and trains new authors through her publishing company, Pen of the Writer. (25:26)

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Safe, Responsible Dating for Teens and Their Families (Guest: Mike Domitrz)

Dating for the first time (or ANY time) can be exciting for a young person, but it can also be a little scary. Dating poses questions and concerns for parents as well. Safe and responsible dating is a major priority for teens and their families. Our guest on this program will help us with those questions and concerns.

Mike Domitrz, founder of the Date Safe Project, is the hands-down expert on dating and sexual decision-making. Each year, Mike speaks to over 30,000 teens, parents and teachers internationally on this most important topic. The Changing Behavior Network is pleased to offer this informative and attention-grabbing interview with Mike.

Mike’s passion is to share key skills and insights for helping teens make smarter and safer choices when it comes to issues of dating and intimacy. He is the author of the best-selling book for teens and parents, May I Kiss you? and he’s the host of the award-winning DVD, HELP! My Teen is Dating.

Mike’s excellent website is definitely worth a visit. (Complete information about the Date Safe Project is on this site under the “About” link.) Here’s the site:

http://www.HelpMyTeenIsDating.com (25:12)

 

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Teen Popularity: Skills of Gaining Peer Acceptance and Approval (Guests: Jonathan & David Bennett)

JonathanBBeing a teenager brings challenges that create difficulty for the teen involved. Chief among their concerns are their friends and relationships, the approval and acceptance of their peers, and a sense of being popular while holding to their values.

But what does it take for a teen to be truly popular, respected and well-liked by others? How do they demonstrate authentic social and emotional maturity among their peers? Can these traits be learned?

DavidBAccording to our guests on this program, identical twins Jonathan and David Bennett, being popular and accepted, and being bully-proof, are skills-based. That means they can be learned, practiced and applied. How this can be accomplished is the subject of this program.

JDBennettbookIn addition to reflecting on their own years as teens, as well as their experiences teaching high school, Jonathan and David researched deeply this matter of popularity, peer acceptance and what it means to be bully-proof. They published the results of their efforts in a comprehensive, well-written, 38-chapter book, The Teen Popularity Handbook: Make Friends, Get Dates, and Become Bully-Proof.

Jonathan and David’s website, The Popular Teen, is yet another go-to resource on this very important topic.

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Doing What Must Be Done (Guest: Chad Hymas)

ChadHymasphotoAt some point most everyone has faced adversity in one form or another. But what about the sort of adversity that forever affects the remainder of one’s life, the bone-jarring kind of event or circumstance that challenges even one’s will to carry on? Even then, can adversity push us to become MORE that we ever imagined?

It seems so.

An accident on his ranch left young Chad Hymas paralyzed from the waist down with very limited use of his upper body. In this moving and fast-paced program, he will share the challenges he faced as his plans for himself and his family were changed in a heartbeat. But Chad will also share how his experiences opened new opportunities for him to serve and encourage others.

ChadHymasbookChad is a sought-after inspirational speaker and author of the book, Doing What Must Be Done. He travels as much as 300,000 miles a year sharing his special brand of encouragement and hope to audiences of all types worldwide. He is a world-class wheelchair athlete. In 2003, Chad set a world record by wheeling a personal marathon of over 500 miles from Salt Lake City to Las Vegas. He’s also one of the youngest members ever to be inducted into the National Speakers Association’s Speaker Hall of Fame. (27:39)

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When Behavior Becomes Desperate: Insights and Interventions (Guest: Dr. James Sutton)

Threat and danger don’t even have to be real to be a problem. There are youngsters (adults, too) who, for any number reasons, live in a constant state of alert. Behaviors of others toward them, even something as mild as one step too many into their personal space, brings a reation that hardly fits the circumstance.

Because this behavior is based on survival and fueled by fear, typical responses and discipline easily can worsen subsequent behavior as it increases the perceived threat. It’s a vicious cycle, and it’s difficult to stop. Exactly how do we negotiate with one’s need to survive?

Our guest on this program, The Changing Behavior Network’s founder and host, Dr. James Sutton, calls this Desperate Behavior, for that’s precisely what it is. Considering all of a school’s students, desperate behavior is rare. It occurs in only about 1-3% of the entire population, but it accounts for the majority of the problems, as well as the lingering misery of affected youngsters.

Since traditional approaches often fail, something different is needed, and that’s the focus of this program. It’s also addressed in Dr. Sutton’s newest book, The Changing Behavior Book.

A nationally recognized child and adolescent psychologist, author and speaker, Dr. James Sutton is in demand for his expetise on emotionally and behaviorally troubled youngsters, and his skill for sharing it. A former Special Education teacher, he is the founder and host of The Changing Behavior Network, a popular internet radio program supporting young people and their families. Every month he publishes The Changing Behavior Digest, offering tips on managing difficult children and teens. Both resouces are available at no cost through his website. (23:58)

(Dr. Sutton has made an arrangement with the publisher for listeners to receive a FREE copy of his bestseller, 101 Ways to Make Your Classroom Special, when they order a copy of The Changing Behavior Book. For more information or to order, CLICK HERE and use the password supplied at the end of this program.)

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Facing the Emotional Challenges of Family Life (Guest: Loren Buckner)

Being a good mother or father might just be the most important job a person could ever have. Interestingly enough, there’s no job description or operations manual, yet the successes and failures of parents can last for generations. If there was ever a job where it mattered to do it well, being a parent is it.

Whether coping with the challenges of infancy or adolescence, parents frequently ask the same question: “Why didn’t someone tell me what this was REALLY going to be like?” This program poses insights and answers to the issues of the question.

Our guest on this program, Loren Buckner, tells us that parenthood not only rearranges our everyday life, it shakes up our internal world as well. Loren suggests that, perhaps more than any other time in our lives, parenthood causes us to reflect on who WE are. We grow as parents as we better understand ourselves.

Loren is a parent and an experienced psychotherapist living in Florida. She is the author of the book, ParentWise: The Emotional Challenges of Family Life and How to Deal with Them. Her website is www.LorenBuckner.com. (26:51)

 

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Attitude Matters: Never Give Up (Guest: LaDene Mayville)

LaDeneMayvillephotoWhen we’re old enough to realize that the world out there isn’t always kind and safe, we begin to understand that struggle, difficulty and adversity are simply a part of the whole experience we call LIFE.

How we manage difficulty says a lot about us, but how we teach and encourage our children to manage difficulty says the rest. What better gift could a parent give a child or a teacher give a student?

LMayvillecoverOur guest on this program, LaDene Mayville, not only knows this subject well, she believes strongly that the defining characteristic for overcoming difficulty is attitude. “When we encounter challenges and disappointments one after another,” says LaDene, “it’s so easy to give up hope and want to quit. But if we don’t get back on our feet and keep on moving, we may never know the blessings that could be just around the corner.”

Drawing on her experiences as a storytime teacher of kindergarteners in an inner-city school, as well as her desire to encourage others as they navigate difficult circumstances, LaDene authored her first book, Hallie the Harvester Ant: Never Give Up. It’s a children’s book with a message for us all. (27:17)

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Encouraging Families to Flourish (Guest: Dr. Daniel Trussell)

What is the secret of families that thrive and do well? Actually, it’s no secret at all. Families that flourish do well because they work at it. These families stand in sharp contrast to others that seem to be barely hanging on. For them, the goal is simple: survival.

Since no family really WANTS to flounder and fail, what are the characteristics of successful families, and how can they be achieved? Can families actually learn to improve and experience positive purpose and growth? Yes, they can.

Dr. Daniel Trussell, the guest on this program, has been studying flourishing families for years. He will share how positive individual traits like respecting others, communicating effectively and exercising coping skills and resilience apply to family units, also. Families CAN improve, and even flourish, and Dr. Trussell will offer his thoughts and experiences for making it happen.

Dr. Trussell is a Licensed Professional Counselor and positive psychology coach. He has spent his career helping individuals and families reduce and prevent mental health problems using a combination of cognitive behavioral therapy, applied positive psychology and mindfulness training. From his deep experience, he has a clear picture of the concerns and the costs, as well as a vision for solutions.

Dr. Trussell is the CEO of Webstar Behavioral Health and author of the new book, How Families Flourish: A Guide to Optimal Family Functioning Using Applied Positive Psychology. (29:18)

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Raising Happy, Confident Kids, Part Two (Guest: Jonathan Hewitt)

JonathanHewittphotoParents want their children to be happy, of course. But descriptions of “happy” can vary widely. Folks like author Dennis Prager (Happiness is a Serious Problem) have been telling us for years how there can be serious issues with how we chase after happiness, and how we try to capture it for our children.

Jonathan Hewitt, our guest on this program, takes another giant step in exposing something that is hurting our kids; he calls it the American Happiness Formula. Here it is: Look Good + Perform Well + Get Approval = Happiness. As a result of dependence on “outside” measures of accomplishment and success, our children are showing more stress, anxiety and depression than ever before. In a refeshingly candid fashion, Jonathan shares from personal experience the harm the American Happiness Formula can create in young people and their families.

Hewitt_cover_withEndorsement.inddFortunately, there is hope, and Jonathan offers plenty of it. His training, extensive research and experience in psychology, martial arts and life education have led to some welcomed answers. In this in-depth, two-part interview, Jonathan outlines a formula for happiness that emphasizes increased focus, confidence, resilience and social intelligence.

Jonathan and his wife, Lana, teach their “growth from within” principles to young people at their Life Ki-do Academy in Austin, Texas. Their success over the years has been remarkable. The Hewitts have now shared with parents what they’ve learned and what they teach. It’s in their new book, Life Ki-do Parenting: Tools to Raise Happy, Confident Kids from the Inside Out. (22:07)

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Raising Happy, Confident Kids, Part One (Guest: Jonathan Hewitt)

JonathanHewittphotoParents want their children to be happy, of course. But descriptions of “happy” can vary widely. Folks like author Dennis Prager (Happiness is a Serious Problem) have been telling us for years how there can be serious issues with how we chase after happiness, and how we try to capture it for our children.

Jonathan Hewitt, our guest on this program, takes another giant step in exposing something that is hurting our kids; he calls it the American Happiness Formula. Here it is: Look Good + Perform Well + Get Approval = Happiness. As a result of dependence on “outside” measures of accomplishment and success, our children are showing more stress, anxiety and depression than ever before. In a refeshingly candid fashion, Jonathan shares from personal experience the harm the American Happiness Formula can create in young people and their families.

Hewitt_cover_withEndorsement.inddFortunately, there is hope, and Jonathan offers plenty of it. His training, extensive research and experience in psychology, martial arts and life education have led to some welcomed answers. In this in-depth, two-part interview, Jonathan outlines a formula for happiness that emphasizes increased focus, confidence, resilience and social intelligence.

Jonathan and his wife, Lana, teach their “growth from within” principles to young people at their Life Ki-do Academy in Austin, Texas. Their success over the years has been remarkable. The Hewitts have now shared with parents what they’ve learned and what they teach. It’s in their new book, Life Ki-do Parenting: Tools to Raise Happy, Confident Kids from the Inside Out. (22:07)

www.lifekido.com

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