Child-Centered Divorce: Getting it Right, Part One (Guest: Rosalind Sedacca)

RSedaccaPhotoCouples don’t marry so they can divorce. But, as we all know, divorce is a reality of society and of life. Regardless of the circumstances, divorce brings changes.

How does divorce affect the children involved? Are there signs that signal they are having difficulty? How do we explain and prepare them for a divorce, and how does a parent communicate with their former spouse regarding the activities and welfare of their children?

These are critical and challenging questions; children and teens depend on us to answere them well. Our guest on this program, Rosalind Sedacca, the Voice of Child-Centered Divorce, is an experienced expert on this topic. We are fortunate to feature her in this extended two-part interview.

How Do I Tell the KidsPhotoNot only will Rosalind point out the challenges and pitfalls divorced parents need to address, she will share about a proven, story-based method for explaining divorce and it’s resulting changes to the children. Her approach makes sense, and young people clearly benefit from it.

Rosalind is not only the founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network, she is a contributing expert, author and popular guest blogger on this critically important topic. She is the author of the internationally acclaimed ebook, How Do I Tell The Kids About the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children–With Love. (23:22)

http://www.childcentereddivorce.com

TO LISTEN, use the player below or left-click the link. To access the file right-click and “Save Link as …” to save to your audio device), CLICK HERE FOR LINK


(START/STOP Audio)

Email this page

Thou Shalt Not Whine: The Eleventh Commandment (Guest: January Jones)

JJonesphotoIf it’s true that misery loves company, then it seems that whiners ought to like other whiners. But, as we all know, it doesn’t work that way. Whiners are near the top of everyone’s “Avoid this person at all costs” list.

Well, if avoiding youngsters or adults that whine was a successful intervention, then why do we have more whiners now than ever? In fact, our guest on this show, January Jones, considers whining to be epidemic and costly to us all. In the long run, whining takes a toll from the quality of life … EVERYONE’S quality of life.

According to January, whining bosses, whining employees, whining spouses, whining children and whining parents often complain about issues and circumstances they could resolve IF they were aware enough and felt empowered enough to create positive change. That’s the good news addressed in this program.

JJonesbookListen in as January shares the research that resulted in her popular book, Thou Shalt Not Whine: The Eleventh Commandment. Listen as she shares her “formula” for whining, and as she explains a four-star rating scale that measures whining from “annoying” to “abusive.” Indeed, January lives up to her reputation as the “Whine Tester.”

Yes, the most common whines of children, teens, parents and grandparents are discussed in this interview, as well as how those whines can be resolved. Listen, also, as January shares a “universal” response to whining, one that often works quickly. As always, a great sense of humor helps, and January is a great role model for that.

January Jones is an established author and the host of her own internet radio show, Sharing Success Stories. As noted, we are featuring her popular book, Thou Shalt Not Whine: The Eleventh Commandment. (28:32)

http://www.januaryjones.com

 

TO LISTEN, use the player below or left-click the link. To access the file right-click and “Save Link as …” to save to your audio device), CLICK HERE FOR LINK


(START/STOP Audio)

Email this page

Traumatic Incident Reduction with Children (Guest: Marian K. Volkman)

MVolkmanphotoTraumatic experiences can seriously affect a person and his or her ability to function and adapt in just about all aspects of life. Traumatized children often struggle a great deal because of their difficulty in communicating what troubles them.

Fortunately, there are ways of helping a traumatized child reach a state of emotional healing, realized to the degree and point that the effects of tramatizing circumstances and events no longer trouble them. It is gratifying to observe this sort of change in a child, change that can be both empowering and permanent.

cover_1162Marian K. Volkman, our guest on this program, brings her experience and expertise to share with us how positive outcomes with a traumatized child can be accomplished. Marian, a Certified Trauma Specialist, has been using Applied Metapsychology and a therapeutic approach called Trauma Incident Reduction (TIR) since the 80s. In fact, she has taught TIR techniques all over the world. She is the editor of a collection of best practices of TIR with children, a book entitled, Children and Traumatic Incident Reduction: Creative and Cognitive Approaches. (26:20)

http://www.MarianVolkman.com

TO LISTEN, use the player below or left-click the link. To access the file right-click and “Save Link as …” to save to your audio device), CLICK HERE FOR LINK


(START/STOP Audio)

Email this page

Stepfamilies: Blessing the Blending (Guest: Valerie J. Lewis Coleman)

Valerie J Lewis Coleman BP BlackAnyone, parent, child or teen, who has ever been part of a blended family knows there often are difficulties and obstacles to making a stepfamily work as as it should. Discouragement mingled with frustration shouldn’t be the name of the game, but often  it is. The job of drawing together a family across multiple households is a challenge not suited to the weak of heart or spirit.

But it CAN be done, according to our guest on this program, Valerie J. Lewis Coleman. She has, as they say, “Been there!” Faced with the struggle to parent five children from three different households, Valerie was often overwhelmed, almost to the point of giving up.

Blended Families An Anthology CoverLooking back on those struggles, Valerie shares how her experiences of heartaches, frustrations and sleepless nights were but the labor pangs required to birth her passion to help others stop what she calls the “Stepfamily Maddness.” From her own journey, plus the experiences and contributions of others going through similar circumstances, Valerie compiled and edited a book, Blended Families: An Anthology. This work, and the wisdom gleaned from its pages, well-represent this topic of blended families.

With over 20 years of experience in families and relationships, Valerie has given advice on varying stepfamily issues, including Baby-Mamma Drama, defiant children and a really tough one: disapproving in-laws. Also, as an established author in her own right, Valerie encourages and trains new authors through her publishing company, Pen of the Writer. (25:26)

www.PenoftheWriter.net

TO LISTEN, use the player below or left-click the link. To access the file right-click and “Save Link as …” to save to your audio device), CLICK HERE FOR LINK


(START/STOP Audio)

Email this page

Safe, Responsible Dating for Teens and Their Families (Guest: Mike Domitrz)

Dating for the first time (or ANY time) can be exciting for a young person, but it can also be a little scary. Dating poses questions and concerns for parents as well. Safe and responsible dating is a major priority for teens and their families. Our guest on this program will help us with those questions and concerns.

Mike Domitrz, founder of the Date Safe Project, is the hands-down expert on dating and sexual decision-making. Each year, Mike speaks to over 30,000 teens, parents and teachers internationally on this most important topic. The Changing Behavior Network is pleased to offer this informative and attention-grabbing interview with Mike.

Mike’s passion is to share key skills and insights for helping teens make smarter and safer choices when it comes to issues of dating and intimacy. He is the author of the best-selling book for teens and parents, May I Kiss you? and he’s the host of the award-winning DVD, HELP! My Teen is Dating.

Mike’s excellent website is definitely worth a visit. (Complete information about the Date Safe Project is on this site under the “About” link.) Here’s the site:

http://www.HelpMyTeenIsDating.com (25:12)

 

To listen, use the player below or left-click the link. To access the file right-click and “Save Target as …” to save to your audio device), CLICK HERE FOR LINK


(START/STOP Audio)

Email this page

Teen Popularity: Skills of Gaining Peer Acceptance and Approval (Guests: Jonathan & David Bennett)

JonathanBBeing a teenager brings challenges that create difficulty for the teen involved. Chief among their concerns are their friends and relationships, the approval and acceptance of their peers, and a sense of being popular while holding to their values.

But what does it take for a teen to be truly popular, respected and well-liked by others? How do they demonstrate authentic social and emotional maturity among their peers? Can these traits be learned?

DavidBAccording to our guests on this program, identical twins Jonathan and David Bennett, being popular and accepted, and being bully-proof, are skills-based. That means they can be learned, practiced and applied. How this can be accomplished is the subject of this program.

JDBennettbookIn addition to reflecting on their own years as teens, as well as their experiences teaching high school, Jonathan and David researched deeply this matter of popularity, peer acceptance and what it means to be bully-proof. They published the results of their efforts in a comprehensive, well-written, 38-chapter book, The Teen Popularity Handbook: Make Friends, Get Dates, and Become Bully-Proof.

Jonathan and David’s website, The Popular Teen, is yet another go-to resource on this very important topic.

www.ThePopularTeen.com

TO LISTEN, use the player below or left-click the link. To access the file right-click and “Save Link as …” to save to your audio device), CLICK HERE FOR LINK


(START/STOP Audio)

Email this page

 

Doing What Must Be Done (Guest: Chad Hymas)

ChadHymasphotoAt some point most everyone has faced adversity in one form or another. But what about the sort of adversity that forever affects the remainder of one’s life, the bone-jarring kind of event or circumstance that challenges even one’s will to carry on? Even then, can adversity push us to become MORE that we ever imagined?

It seems so.

An accident on his ranch left young Chad Hymas paralyzed from the waist down with very limited use of his upper body. In this moving and fast-paced program, he will share the challenges he faced as his plans for himself and his family were changed in a heartbeat. But Chad will also share how his experiences opened new opportunities for him to serve and encourage others.

ChadHymasbookChad is a sought-after inspirational speaker and author of the book, Doing What Must Be Done. He travels as much as 300,000 miles a year sharing his special brand of encouragement and hope to audiences of all types worldwide. He is a world-class wheelchair athlete. In 2003, Chad set a world record by wheeling a personal marathon of over 500 miles from Salt Lake City to Las Vegas. He’s also one of the youngest members ever to be inducted into the National Speakers Association’s Speaker Hall of Fame. (27:39)

http://www.ChadHymas.com

 

TO LISTEN, use the player below or left-click the link. To access the file right-click and “Save Target as …” to save to your audio device), CLICK HERE FOR LINK


(START/STOP Audio)

Email this page

When Behavior Becomes Desperate: Insights and Interventions (Guest: Dr. James Sutton)

Threat and danger don’t even have to be real to be a problem. There are youngsters (adults, too) who, for any number reasons, live in a constant state of alert. Behaviors of others toward them, even something as mild as one step too many into their personal space, brings a reation that hardly fits the circumstance.

Because this behavior is based on survival and fueled by fear, typical responses and discipline easily can worsen subsequent behavior as it increases the perceived threat. It’s a vicious cycle, and it’s difficult to stop. Exactly how do we negotiate with one’s need to survive?

Our guest on this program, The Changing Behavior Network’s founder and host, Dr. James Sutton, calls this Desperate Behavior, for that’s precisely what it is. Considering all of a school’s students, desperate behavior is rare. It occurs in only about 1-3% of the entire population, but it accounts for the majority of the problems, as well as the lingering misery of affected youngsters.

Since traditional approaches often fail, something different is needed, and that’s the focus of this program. It’s also addressed in Dr. Sutton’s newest book, The Changing Behavior Book.

A nationally recognized child and adolescent psychologist, author and speaker, Dr. James Sutton is in demand for his expetise on emotionally and behaviorally troubled youngsters, and his skill for sharing it. A former Special Education teacher, he is the founder and host of The Changing Behavior Network, a popular internet radio program supporting young people and their families. Every month he publishes The Changing Behavior Digest, offering tips on managing difficult children and teens. Both resouces are available at no cost through his website. (23:58)

(Dr. Sutton has made an arrangement with the publisher for listeners to receive a FREE copy of his bestseller, 101 Ways to Make Your Classroom Special, when they order a copy of The Changing Behavior Book. For more information or to order, CLICK HERE and use the password supplied at the end of this program.)

www.DocSpeak.com

TO LISTEN, use the player below or left-click the link. To access the file right-click and “Save Target as …” to save to your audio device), CLICK HERE FOR LINK


(START/STOP Audio)

Email this page

Facing the Emotional Challenges of Family Life (Guest: Loren Buckner)

Being a good mother or father might just be the most important job a person could ever have. Interestingly enough, there’s no job description or operations manual, yet the successes and failures of parents can last for generations. If there was ever a job where it mattered to do it well, being a parent is it.

Whether coping with the challenges of infancy or adolescence, parents frequently ask the same question: “Why didn’t someone tell me what this was REALLY going to be like?” This program poses insights and answers to the issues of the question.

Our guest on this program, Loren Buckner, tells us that parenthood not only rearranges our everyday life, it shakes up our internal world as well. Loren suggests that, perhaps more than any other time in our lives, parenthood causes us to reflect on who WE are. We grow as parents as we better understand ourselves.

Loren is a parent and an experienced psychotherapist living in Florida. She is the author of the book, ParentWise: The Emotional Challenges of Family Life and How to Deal with Them. Her website is www.LorenBuckner.com. (26:51)

 

TO LISTEN, use the player below or left-click the link. To access the file right-click and “Save Target as …” to save to your audio device), CLICK HERE FOR LINK

Attitude Matters: Never Give Up (Guest: LaDene Mayville)

LaDeneMayvillephotoWhen we’re old enough to realize that the world out there isn’t always kind and safe, we begin to understand that struggle, difficulty and adversity are simply a part of the whole experience we call LIFE.

How we manage difficulty says a lot about us, but how we teach and encourage our children to manage difficulty says the rest. What better gift could a parent give a child or a teacher give a student?

LMayvillecoverOur guest on this program, LaDene Mayville, not only knows this subject well, she believes strongly that the defining characteristic for overcoming difficulty is attitude. “When we encounter challenges and disappointments one after another,” says LaDene, “it’s so easy to give up hope and want to quit. But if we don’t get back on our feet and keep on moving, we may never know the blessings that could be just around the corner.”

Drawing on her experiences as a storytime teacher of kindergarteners in an inner-city school, as well as her desire to encourage others as they navigate difficult circumstances, LaDene authored her first book, Hallie the Harvester Ant: Never Give Up. It’s a children’s book with a message for us all. (27:17)

http://on.fb.me/1fVVw8Nx

TO LISTEN, use the player below or left-click the link. To access the file right-click and “Save Link as …” to save to your audio device), CLICK HERE FOR LINK


(START/STOP Audio)

Email this page