Surviving Your Adolescents (Guest: Dr. Thomas Phelan)

This is a repost of an excellent interview with Dr. Phelan that was first aired August 19, 2012

 

Somewhere during adolescence, youngsters regress to speaking again (to their parents) in one or two-syllable sentences:

“How was your day?”

“Fine.”

“What did you do in Social Studies today?”

“Nothing.”

Our guest today, Dr. Tom Phelan, calls this teen behavior “The Snub.” It’s part of a stage of normal adolescent behavior and development. Dr. Phelan explains how to redirect “The Snub,” not with a “Re-Snub” (which can lead to a whole menu of trouble), but by changing the questions. It takes a little work, but it’s not difficult.

There are, of course, deeper and more serious issues that affect our teens today, and they are a substantial part of that often uncomfortable (and painfully slow, from their perspective) journey from child to adult. This program looks at the four most prominent areas of challenge and difficulty that lead to risky and unsafe behavior in adolescents: driving, drugs and alcohol, sex and romance, and technology. Dr. Phelan will explain how critical it is for parents to avoid emotional reactions to adolescent behavior, the Four Cardinal Sins, that only create more distance and conflict in the relationship.

A clincial psychologist, Dr. Phelan is an internationally renowned expert, author and lecturer on child discipline and Attention Deficit Disorder. He’s the author of Surviving Your Adolescents: How to Manage and Let Go of Your 13-18 Year Olds. His landmark book, a million seller plus, is 1-2-3 Magic!

www.parentmagic.com

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