Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach (Guest: Howard Glasser)

All young people (adults, too, for that matter) want to be noticed and affirmed. If they can’t get it one way, they’ll take it another. This is one of the most basic tenents in addressing problem behavior in children and teens. It’s also one of the most ignored.

Our guest on this program, Howard Glasser, suggests that inappropriate behaviors in a young person can keep on happening when a teacher or caretaker puts high energy into their response to the behavior. Acting out children and teens can draw strength from that energy and intensity; it happens all the time. Result: Problems continue because they are actually being reinforced.

In this insightful and informative program, Howard offers insights and concrete, doable interventions for setting energies, payoffs, behaviors and relationships back on the track by employing what he calls the Nurtured Heart Approach. This approach not only makes sense, it makes for progress where little has been seen with other interventions.

Howard continues to share and teach the Nurtured Heart Approach through his live presentations worldwide. His consulting clients include numerous psychiatric, judicial and educational facilities and programs, and he’s the founder of the the Children’s Success Foundation, based in Tucson, Arizona. Howard has written much on the topic of resolving difficult behavior in young people, including the landmark book he coauthored with Jennifer Easley, Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach. (28:53)

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Letters to God: Diary of an Unsilenced Generation (Guest: Cassandra Smith)

CSmithphotoAmong the Millennial generation , there are young people who experienced their childhood during a time when many families were at-risk. In fact, some counselors, clergy and mental health professionals call this the “Orphan Generation.” Why is this, what happened, and what can we do about it?

Fortunately, our guest on this on this program, Cassandra Smith, discovered a way for us to know more about what these young people are really thinking about us, about themselves, and about the challenges of life they face.

LTGCover1Cassandra collected thousands of anonymous handwritten letters to God as she worked with Acquire the Fire youth conferences across the United States and Canada several years ago. What she discovered, and what she’ll share with us, were not only the deepest needs of these young people, but their intense desire for help and hope in their lives.

Cassandra is an honors graduate from Indiana University of Pennsylvania. She has worked extensively with youth for twelve years, including tours for four years with Teen Mania’s Acquire the Fire and years of work with Youth with a Mission. Today, you’ll find her deeply involved in speaking engagements at events and churches, where she creates a deeping awareness of the needs of youth today, as well as how these young people can discover a path to restoration as they search for authentic and lasting hope and change. (25:23)

www.LetterstoGodMovement.com

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Teens, Cyberspace and the Law (Guest: Judge Tom Jacobs)

There’s little doubt that cellphones and the internet have created convenient and lightning-quick ways to communicate in a complicated world. Many lives have been saved because these tools were available.

But it’s also true that irresponsible, even unlawful, use of cellphone communication has cost people their dignity, their reputation, their livlihood, and even their lives.

Although the inappropriate use of cellphones and the internet is not just a problem among young people, evidence points to the fact that these tools in the hands of our children can be concern. Parents should monitor their use and take action, when needed.

But what sort of action? Overreaction can damage relationships, completely shut down communication and drive the problem even deeper. So the question remains: What are the potential problems (ranging from excessive calling and texting to sexting and cyberbullying), and what can parents and educators do to address them effectively?

Our guest today, Judge Tom Jacobs, has some thoughts on the matter, thoughts, suggestions and interventions compiled during the 23 years he spent as a juvenile judge in Arizona. As they say, Judge Tom has “been there.”

From his heartfelt concern for young people, Judge Tom  founded and moderates AsktheJudge.info, a teen-law website for and about teenagers and the laws that affect them. And, of course, it’s a valuable site for parents and educators who want to stay current with issues that affect the safety and welfare of our young people.

Judge Tom has written several books for lawyers and judges, as well as for teens and parents, including “What Are My Rights?” and Teen Cyberbullying Investigated. (28:20)

www.AsktheJudge.info

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Conduct Disorder: Controlling the Uncontrollable, Part 2 (Guest: Ruth Herman Wells

RuthWellsphotoThe youngster diagnosed as Conduct Disorder is, without question, the most difficult child or teen to raise, teach, understand and manage.

These kids don’t think like we do, and therein lies our biggest challenge. Appealing to a sense of right or wrong with this youngster, or attempting to address remorse for harm done to others, doesn’t work. They don’t relate to the pain and suffering of others. In fact, they don’t relate at all.

Unfortunately, these youngsers can steal, hit, manipulate, bully, defy, torment and hurt others, resist rules and laws, and torture and kill animals … and it doesn’t bother them, at all.

This is the MOST unmanageable youngster you could possibly encounter. Effective interventions matter a great deal.

RWellsCDbookRuth Herman Wells, our guest on this program, has spent her career perfecting techniques to use with CD kids. On this program, she will share some of the best answers that exist for successfuly managing unmanageable children and teens. Ruth perfected these interventions in the trenches where the problems were. So, when we use what she shares, the ideas work.

Ruth is the Director of Youth Change Workshops, out of Oregon. She has managed programs for deliquent, troubled and problem youth. She’s the author of dozens of books, including All the Best Answers for the Worst Kid Problems: Anti-social Youth and Conduct Disorders. (23:23)

 

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Conduct Disorder: Controlling the Uncontrollable, Part 1 (Guest: Ruth Herman Wells)

RuthWellsphotoThe youngster diagnosed as Conduct Disorder is, without question, the most difficult child or teen to raise, teach, understand and manage.

These kids don’t think like we do, and therein lies our biggest challenge. Appealing to a sense of right or wrong with this youngster, or attempting to address remorse for harm done to others, doesn’t work. They don’t relate to the pain and suffering of others. In fact, they don’t relate at all.

Unfortunately, these youngsers can steal, hit, manipulate, bully, defy, torment and hurt others, resist rules and laws, and torture and kill animals … and it doesn’t bother them, at all.

This is the MOST unmanageable youngster you could possibly encounter. Effective interventions matter a great deal.

RWellsCDbookRuth Herman Wells, our guest on this program, has spent her career perfecting techniques to use with CD kids. On this program, she will share some of the best answers that exist for successfuly managing unmanageable children and teens. Ruth perfected these interventions in the trenches where the problems were. So, when we use what she shares, the ideas work.

Ruth is the Director of Youth Change Workshops, out of Oregon. She has managed programs for deliquent, troubled and problem youth. She’s the author of dozens of books, including All the Best Answers for the Worst Kid Problems: Anti-social Youth and Conduct Disorders. (22:35)

 

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The Kid’s Guide to Service Projects (Guest: Barbara Lewis)

Barbara1We do a lot for our children, don’t we? At some point, however, shouldn’t they learn that living in a thriving, healthy society means giving to others, also? Of course. That’s how they learn the value of service and the power of contributing positively.

In this program today, we’re talking about service projects for young people, about involvement in making the world better one generous gesture at a time. To help guide us through ways to get kids involved and excited about service to others is our guest, Barbara Lewis.

BLewisbookSPBarbara is clearly the expert on this topic. In fact, she wrote the book on it! A former public school teacher and award-winning author of The Kid’s Guide to Service Projects, Barbara and her students have been honored for community contributions by Presidents Ronald Reagan and George H. W. Bush. Her work has been featured in The Congressional Record and print and broadcast media, including Newsweek, The Wall Street Journal, Family Circle, “CBS This Morning,” CBS World News and CNN. (27:58)

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Protecting Our Children from Cyber Addiction (Guest: Kevin Roberts)

What a timely interview! Exactly what are the risks when our children spend too much time playing video games or chatting on the Internet? Can texting become a problem?

Our guest on this program, Kevin Roberts, has answers to these questions, answers he learned the hardest way possible. Kevin is a recovering cyber addict; he can speak to the costs of video gaming and Internet addiciton, including employment problems, distancing of relationships, and even health and fitness concerns.

Kevin shares warning signs parents (and teachers) should look for if they suspect a youngster’s video gaming is getting out of control. He will also outline steps that can be taken to initiate immediate improvement. (26:25)

Kevin is the author of Cyber Junkie: Escape the Gaming and Internet Trap, and he regularly trains therapists, physicians, nurses, educators and parents on the perils of the Internet and video gaming. His informative website is:

www.kevinjroberts.net

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The Road to Resiliency (Guest: Troy Payne)

TPaynephotoStruggle is part of life, but when does struggle become adversity? And how do we overcome adversity in our lives and strive for resiliency?

Young people are especially vulnerable when it comes to adversity in their lives, be it poverty, loss, illness or abuse. Their resources for recovery are limited. For them, our involvement, our help, is worth the effort, and then some.

Our guest on this program, Troy Payne, will share, through his story, what resiliency is and what resilient components we need to have in order to overcome adversity. He will also share how we can be a valued resource to those that struggle.

TPayneBookFollowing a career as a youth and family counselor, Troy founded a company, Wellness Realization, and now dedicates his efforts as a speaker, musician and author to helping others overcome adversity and find resilience. His band, “Aside from Sorrow,” has completed two albums that carry their message. The first album, “Out of Darkness, Into the Light,” is the soundtrack to Troy’s internationally best-selling book, The Road to Resiliency. (24:35)

http://www.wellnessrealization.net

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Cody Jane: Able, and Then Some! (Guest: Marly Cornell)

Cody Jane was not a teacher by profession, but she taught us plenty. She taught us that life is a gift, and that we are placed on this planet to use that gift joyfully and completely.

Paralyzed from the waist down due to spina bifida and the ongoing surgeries and medical issues associated with the condition, Cody valued and tirelessly worked toward the sort of independence most of us take for granted. All who knew her were touched by Cody’s courage and drive, her ability to inspire others and, of course, her unsinkable sense of humor. She caused us to focus not on limitations, but on possibilities.

This is Cody’s story. More than that, it is her message. Our special guest on this program is Cody’s mother, Marly Cornell. Marly is an award-winning author, an artist and a social justice advocate living in the Minneapolis area. She’s the author of The Able Life of Cody Jane; Still Celebrating. (26:55)

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Prescriptions for Healing Conflict (Mari Frank interviews Dr. James Sutton)

Communication can be a problem in today’s fast-paced world. When problems of communication begin to wear on the parent-child or teacher-student relationship, serious trouble isn’t far away.

In this program, child and adolescent psychologist, Dr. James Sutton, is interviewed by Mari Frank, host of the west coast radio show, “Prescriptions for Healing Conflict.” Mari is an attorney specializing in mediation, and she’s the author of several books. She is also a law professor of negotiations and mediation at the University of California at Irvine.

In this interview, aired February 6, 2012 from the KUCI studios at the university, Mari and Jim discuss issues of communication in families, including some ways it effectively can be enhanced to the benefit of everyone. Mari also encourges Jim to share some of the finer points of something covered in his newest book, The Changing Behavior Book. It’s a ten-step process parents and teachers can use to resolve conflict with a child or teen. (27:30)

More information about The Changing Behavior Book, as well as a number of free resources, can be accessed through Dr. Sutton’s website:

www.DocSpeak.com

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