Traumatic Incident Reduction with Children (Guest: Marian K.Volkman)

MVolkmanphotoTraumatic experiences can seriously affect a person and his or her ability to function and adapt in just about all aspects of life. Traumatized children often struggle a great deal because of their difficulty in communicating what troubles them.

Fortunately, there are ways of helping a traumatized child reach a state of emotional healing, realized to the degree and point that the effects of tramatizing circumstances and events no longer trouble them. It is gratifying to observe this sort of change in a child, change that can be both empowering and permanent.

cover_1162Marian K. Volkman, our guest on this program, brings her experience and expertise to share with us how positive outcomes with a traumatized child can be accomplished. Marian, a Certified Trauma Specialist, has been using Applied Metapsychology and a therapeutic approach called Trauma Incident Reduction (TIR) since the 80s. In fact, she has taught TIR techniques all over the world. She is the editor of a collection of best practices of TIR with children, a book entitled, Children and Traumatic Incident Reduction: Creative and Cognitive Approaches. (26:20)

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COMING SOON: Calming Our Kids, One Meal at a Time (Guest: Trudy Scott)

Teens, Cyberspace and the Law (Guest: Judge Tom Jacobs)

This is a repost of an excellent interview with Judge Tom that was first aired on August 8, 2012.

 

There’s little doubt that cellphones and the internet have created convenient and lightning-quick ways to communicate in a complicated world. Many lives have been saved because these tools were available.

But it’s also true that irresponsible, even unlawful, use of cellphone communication has cost people their dignity, their reputation, their livlihood, and even their lives.

Although the inappropriate use of cellphones and the internet is not just a problem among young people, evidence points to the fact that these tools in the hands of our children can be concern. Parents should monitor their use and take action, when needed.

But what sort of action? Overreaction can damage relationships, completely shut down communication and drive the problem even deeper. So the question remains: What are the potential problems (ranging from excessive calling and texting to sexting and cyberbullying), and what can parents and educators do to address them effectively?

Our guest today, Judge Tom Jacobs, has some thoughts on the matter, thoughts, suggestions and interventions compiled during the 23 years he spent as a juvenile judge in Arizona. As they say, Judge Tom has “been there.”

From his heartfelt concern for young people, Judge Tom founded and moderates AsktheJudge.info, a teen-law website for and about teenagers and the laws that affect them. And, of course, it’s a valuable site for parents and educators who want to stay current with issues that affect the safety and welfare of our young people.

Judge Tom has written several books for lawyers and judges, as well as for teens and parents, including “What Are My Rights?” and Teen Cyberbullying Investigated. (28:20)

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COMING SOON: Traumatic Incident Reduction with Children (Guest: Marian K. Volkman)

A Parent’s Death; A Child’s Grief, Part Two (Guest: Judy Strong)

phpiih9e9PMThe circle of especially close adults in a youngster’s life is small. A loss in that circle, especially a parent, can be a traumatizing event for any child or teen. Although grieving the loss of a parent or parental figure is a normal process, the process doesn’t always go smoothly for some youngsters. It helps to help.

One in twenty children will lose a parent before their senior year in high school. That figure should grab our attention. What would be some signs that a youngster is struggling in their grief? What can we do with and for a grieving child that would help them achieve closure and healing on such a loss?

A Child's Grief CoverOur guest on this program, Judy Strong, a Certified Grief and Loss Facilitator, knows this topic well and shares not only her insights and expertise, but of her first-hand experience involving her own children.

Judy is an award-winning author and a popular speaker on the topic of loss and healing, and she’s the founder of Survive Strong Resources out of Arizona. She is the author of the books, No Time to Grieve: A Survivor’s Guide to Loss and Healing and A Child’s Grief: Surviving the Death of a Parent. (23:39)

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COMING SOON: Teens, Cyberspace and the Law (Guest: Judge Tom Jacobs)

A Parent’s Death; A Child’s Grief – Part One (Guest: Judy Strong)

phpiih9e9PMThe circle of especially close adults in a youngster’s life is small. A loss in that circle, especially a parent, can be a traumatizing event for any child or teen. Although grieving the loss of a parent or parental figure is a normal process, the process doesn’t always go smoothly for some youngsters. It helps to help.

One in twenty children will lose a parent before their senior year in high school. That figure should grab our attention. What would be some signs that a youngster is struggling in their grief? What can we do with and for a grieving child that would help  them achieve closure and healing on such a loss?

A Child's Grief CoverOur guest on this program, Judy Strong, a Certified Grief and Loss Facilitator, knows this topic well and shares not only her insights and expertise, but of her first-hand experience involving her own children.

Judy is an award-winning author and a popular speaker on the topic of loss and healing, and she’s the founder of Survive Strong Resources out of Arizona. She is the author of the books, No Time to Grieve: A Survivor’s Guide to Loss and Healing and A Child’s Grief: Surviving the Death of a Parent.  (23:39)

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COMING SOON: A Parent’s Death; A Child’s Grief – Part Two (Guest: Judy Strong)

Wings for Kids: SEL in Action (Guest: Bridget Laird)

BridgetLairdphoto2 Wings for Kids, a nonprofit organization based out of Charleston, South Carolina, is most definitely on the right track. For the past 17 years, Wings has been emphasizing social and emotional learning with elementary school youngsters identified as being at-risk. Their powerful after-school programs, conducted at the students’ schools, hold such potential for positive change that the US Department of Education  gave Wings a 2.8 million dollar grand for a four-year study and evaluation of the program and its outcomes.

WingslogoWings for Kids’ emphasis on social and emotional learning targets five critical life skills: Self-awareness, Responsible Decision-making, Self-management, Relationship Skills and Social Awareness. Kids gain the life lessons they need to succeed and be happy, and they get a safe place to call home after school.

In this informative program, Bridget Laird, CEO of Wings for Kids, shares about the powerful impact of social and emotional learning (SEL), how Wings has grown, and how renewed hope can mean changed lives and families. Bridget has been with Wings since 1998, and its CEO since 2011. (27:52)

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COMING SOON: A Parent’s Death; A Child’s Grief – Part One (Guest: Judy Strong)

Safe, Responsible Dating for Teens and Their Parents (Guest: Mike Domitrz)

This is a repost of an interview with Mike that was aired on March 11, 2012

Dating for the first time (or ANY time) can be exciting for a young person, but it can also be a little scary. Dating poses questions and concerns for parents as well. Safe and responsible dating is a major priority for teens and their families. Our guest on this program will help us with those questions and concerns.

Mike Domitrz, founder of the Date Safe Project, is the hands-down expert on dating and sexual decision-making. Each year, Mike speaks to over 30,000 teens, parents and teachers internationally on this most important topic. The Changing Behavior Network is pleased to offer this informative and attention-grabbing interview with Mike.

Mike’s passion is to share key skills and insights for helping teens make smarter and safer choices when it comes to issues of dating and intimacy. He is the author of the best-selling book for teens and parents, May I Kiss you? and he’s the host of the award-winning DVD, HELP! My Teen is Dating.

Mike’s excellent website is definitely worth a visit. (Complete information about the Date Safe Project is on this site under the “About” link.) Here’s the site:

http://www.HelpMyTeenIsDating.com (25:12)

 

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COMING SOON: Wings for Kids: SEL in Action (Guest: Bridget Laird)

Kids and Summer Camp: Coping with Homesickness

FSileophoto2The excitement of going off to summer camp and all the fun it brings can be offset by a first-time camper’s anxiety about leaving home. Homesickness is real, indeed.

Feelings of homesickness are typical; most youngsters experience them the first time they spend the night away from the familiarity of home, family, pets and long-time friendships. Althought it is a common type of separation anxiety, homesickness doesn’t feel common at all to the youngster caught up in its discomfort.

Our guest on this program, Dr. Frank Sileo, will offer insights and ideas for addressing feelings of homesickness. He will also share ways parents can help their child become more capable and confident BEFORE the youngster goes off to camp, often preventing many of the symptoms and experiences of homesickness.

BugbitesAndCampfiresCOVERSMDr. Sileo is the author of the children’s book, Bug Bites and Campfires: A Story for Kids About Homesickness. It’s a great example of evidence-based treatment wrapped up in a great story.

Dr. Sileo is the Executive Director of The Center for Psychological Enhancement in Ridgewood, New Jersey. He has been recognized time and time again for his skill as a child and adolescent therapist and his abilities as a speaker and author. (26:55)

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COMING SOON: Safe, Responsible Dating for Teens and Their Parents (Guest: Mike Domitrz)

Helping Adolescents with Anger and Life (Guest: Dr. John Schinnerer)

JSchinnererphotoThe emotion of anger can be compared to a stick of dynamite. Used well, and with respect for its potential, dynamite contains the energy and force to build bridges, roads and dams. Used carelessly, however, it can be incredibly destructive and costly in so many ways. It’s much the same with anger.

According to our guest on this program, Dr. John Schinnerer, issues of destructive anger in our young people, especially teens, are on the rise. He will help us sort through the nature of anger and other negative emotions in this population. And, of course, Dr. Schinnerer will offer insights and suggestions for helping these youngsters manage their anger with a perspective and manner that are more healthy and constructive. This is not only important, our future depends on it.

GuideToSelfBookDr. Schinnerer has developed a unique coaching methodology that combines the best aspects of entertainment, humor, positive psychology and emotional management techniques. He teaches clients evidence-based ways to turn down the volume on negative emotions such as anger, anxiety and stress. In short, he is revolutionizing the way in which people make sense of the mind, behavior and emotion. He is also the author of thee award-winning book, Guide to Self: The Beginner’s Guide to Managing Emotion and Thought.  (28:13)

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COMING SOON: Kids and Summer Camp: Coping with Homesickness (Guest: Frank Sileo)

“My Brother is Different:” The Sibling Side of Autism (Guest: Barbara Morvay)

THIS IS A REPOST OF AN EXCELLENT INTERVIEW WITH BARBARA THAT AIRED AUGUST 12, 2012.

 

Although we’re better at questions than answers, much has been observed, researched and written about autism. We know it is the fastest growing developmental disability in the United States, and we know that raising and teaching an autistic child present patience and skills-stretching challenges daily.

But what about the siblings of an autistic child? What do we know of their concerns, fears and feelings regarding their autistic brother or sister? Additionally, what specific things can we do with the “normal” siblings to help them adapt, adjust and become as resilient and emotionally fit as possible?

Parents have been asking these questions for some time, but there haven’t been many answers. Until now.

Our guest on this program, Barbara Morvay, has written a ground-breaking book that squarely addresses the siblings of an autistic child, My Brother is Different: A Sibling’s Guide to Coping with Autism. In the book (enthusiastically endorsed by autism advocate, Temple Grandin) and in this interview, Barbara addresses the thoughts “normal” children are afraid to think and the questions they are afraid to ask. Barbara does this by empowering the best counselors a youngster will ever have: Mom and Dad.

Barbara is a retired educator of 37 years. As a Special Education teacher and later principal and superintendent of schools specializing in the education of special needs students, Barbara knows first-hand the challenges involved, but also the victories.

As testimony to her expertise, Barbara was appointed to The Richard Stockton School of New Jersey Board of Trustees, and she was appointed by Governor Chris Christie to the New Jersey Governor’s Council for Medical Research and Treatment of Autism. (27:21)

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Raising Happy, Confident Kids, Part Two (Guest: Jonathan Hewitt)

JonathanHewittphotoParents want their children to be happy, of course. But descriptions of “happy” can vary widely. Folks like author Dennis Prager (Happiness is a Serious Problem) have been telling us for years how there can be serious issues with how we chase after happiness, and how we try to capture it for our children.

Jonathan Hewitt, our guest on this program, takes another giant step in exposing something that is hurting our kids; he calls it the American Happiness Formula. Here it is: Look Good + Perform Well + Get Approval = Happiness. As a result of dependence on “outside” measures of accomplishment and success, our children are showing more stress, anxiety and depression than ever before. In a refeshingly candid fashion, Jonathan shares from personal experience the harm the American Happiness Formula can create in young people and their families.

Hewitt_cover_withEndorsement.inddFortunately, there is hope, and Jonathan offers plenty of it. His training, extensive research and experience in psychology, martial arts and life education have led to some welcomed answers. In this in-depth, two-part interview, Jonathan outlines a formula for happiness that emphasizes increased focus, confidence, resilience and social intelligence.

Jonathan and his wife, Lana, teach their “growth from within” principles to young people at their Life Ki-do Academy in Austin, Texas. Their success over the years has been remarkable. The Hewitts have now shared with parents what they’ve learned and what they teach. It’s in their new book, Life Ki-do Parenting: Tools to Raise Happy, Confident Kids from the Inside Out. (22:07)

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COMING SOON: “My Brohter is Different:” The Sibling Side of Autism (Guest: Barbara Morvay)