Why Children Today Don’t Get Enough Free Play, Part One (Guest: Amy Robbins-Wilson

When she was a school counselor, Amy Robbins-Wilson witnessed first-hand how young people were not having nearly enough opportunity for free and imaginative play in their lives. She observed how this affected spontaneity, creativity, overall confidence and even social interaction over time.

In this informative interview, Amy shares her insights into the concern about children’s needs for free and unstructured play and the opportunity to be authentically spontaneous. And, of course, she shares what adults can do to encourage more free play and expression. In this first part of a two-part interview, Amy discussed how important it is for parents to offer their time, presence and interaction, including pauses for “quiet” time and the appreciation of wonder. These lead to a healthy willingness to take risks and grow in the process.

Amy is a therapist specializing as a Musical Parenting Expert and a Healing Music Artist. She is also an author and an award-winning recording artist. Join the interview as Amy shares great ideas on how we can enrich the lives and futures of our children. (20:50)

(This interview concludes in Part Two.)

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Parenting Your ADHD Child (Guest: Dr. Craig Wiener)

CWienerphotoIf a person is raising or has raised a child, or works with young people, it’s likely they’ve heard of ADHD, one of the conditions and diagnoses of childhood. ADHD, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, is characterized by excessive distractability, hyperactivity and impulsive mannerisms.

Generally, ADHD is addressed by reminders and immediate redirection, tasks adjusted for attention span, use of contingencies (rewards or punishment) and very close monitoring and supervision. And then, of course, there’s the issue of medication.

But is it possible that these interventions could actually work against the best long-term interests of the child? Our guest on this program, psychologist Dr. Craig Wiener, suggests this is a strong possibility? Dr. Wiener will share with us how successful management of ADHD involves empowering the child out of the condition by teaching them to implement the skills an ADHD youngster needs to be successful, confident, self-reliant and cooperative. It’s a bonus, of course, when this can be accomplished without the need for medication.

CWienerBookphotoDr. Wiener has spent over 30 years helping individuals diagnosed with ADHD. In addition to his private practice, he is a faculty member in the Department of Family Medicine and Community Health at the University of Massachusetts Medical School, and he’s the clinical director of outpatient mental health services at the Family Health Center of Worcester, Massachusetts. Dr. Wiener has written three books on this important topic, the latest being Parenting Your Child with ADHD: a No-Nonsense Guide for Nurturing Self-reliance and Cooperation. (27:30)

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Bullycide: When Cyberbullying Turns Fatal (Guest: Judge Tom Jacobs)

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERAAs effective tools of communication and commerce, the internet and cyberspace have changed the way we live. For all the good and benefits they bring, there is a downside. This program addresses loss of life as a result of cyber abuse: bullycide.

The suicide of young people as a result of cyberbullying is a serious issue that is growing in its impact. Our guest on this program, Judge Tom Jacobs,  studies cyber bullycide and the circumstances and events that affect the lives and welfare of our young people. Judge Tom will guide us through the issues of bullycide and how it happens, and he will share his research on legal implications and what we can all do to best protect our children and grandchildren from such a grave threat.

Judge Tom is the founder and moderator of AsktheJudge.info, a teen-law website for and about teen, tweens and the laws that affect them. It’s also a valuable website for parents and educators who want to stay current with issues that affect the safety and welfare of our young people.

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Judge Tom is a retired juvenile judge from Arizona, having spent 23 years on the bench. He has written several books for lawyers and judges, as well as for teens and parents, including the book that covers our topic in this program: Teen Cyberbullying Investigated. (28:04)

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Facing the Emotional Challenges of Family Life (Guest: Loren Buckner)

Being a good mother or father might just be the most important job a person could ever have. Interestingly enough, there’s no job description or operations manual, yet the successes and failures of parents can last for generations. If there was ever a job where it mattered to do it well, being a parent is it.

Whether coping with the challenges of infancy or adolescence, parents frequently ask the same question: “Why didn’t someone tell me what this was REALLY going to be like?” This program poses insights and answers to the issues of the question.

Our guest on this program, Loren Buckner, tells us that parenthood not only rearranges our everyday life, it shakes up our internal world as well. Loren suggests that, perhaps more than any other time in our lives, parenthood causes us to reflect on who WE are. We grow as parents as we better understand ourselves.

Loren is a parent and an experienced psychotherapist living in Florida. She is the author of the book, ParentWise: The Emotional Challenges of Family Life and How to Deal with Them. Her website is www.LorenBuckner.com. (26:51)

 

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Family Centered Parenting (Guest: Dr. Richard Horowitz)

RHorowitzphotoParenting can be a difficult, tough and demanding job. After all, our children don’t arrive with instructions. The task of being a parent often is through trial and error, with successes and mistakes being part of the process.

There’s little doubt that the structure of the family has changed in recent years, putting more challenges on parents than ever before. The good news is that most parents want to do their best in raising and instructing their children and in managing the challenges that crop up along the way.

Our guest on this program, Dr. Richard Horowitz, is the founder of Family Centered Parenting. He has experience and insights on managing critical issues affecting parents today. He will also share how our overall philosophy of behavior and how we communicate with our children can make a tremendous difference in the quality and success of parenting outcomes.

RHorowitzbookphotoDr. Horowitz has been working with children, schools and families for over 35 years. As a professional educator and agency provider, he has filled a variety of roles including teacher, school administrator and CEO of a case management organization. He and his wife, Jane, founded Growing Great Relationships, a coaching/training practice to help families, educators and family support providers who work with young people to face the challenges of parenting, schooling and creating a stable family life.

Dr. Horowitz, a highly evaluated presenter and trainer, is the author of Family Centered Parenting: Your Guide for Growing Great Families. (25:56)

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Peaceful Parenting (Guest: Dr. Nancy Buck)

Dr. Nancy Buck, a developmental psychologist, suggests parents can’t control their children, and they shouldn’t even try. Author of Peaceful Parenting and the more recent Why Do Kids Act That Way?, Nancy shares simple and effective strategies for eliminating battles at home and improving relationships in the family.

Nancy is the founder and president of Peaceful Parenting Inc. and a parent herself. She is a Senior Faculty Member of the William Glasser Institute, and contributes regularly to the Psychology Today blog. Nancy has dedicated her career to helping adults better understand children, what drives them, and how to guide them effectively.

Listen in as Dr. Nancy Buck shows us how power struggles and parental attempts to control and overcontrol their children often bring precisely the problems and issues they don’t want. She will share a better way. In this interview she’ll even suggest a “cure” for ODD.

Dr. Buck’s website is www.peacefulparenting.com. Her books, training programs and additional resources and information are available through the website (20:20).

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Helping and Empowering the Self-defeating Youngster (Guest: Leslie Rogers)

LRogersphotoIt seems that some kids have a way of hurting their own outcomes with self-defeating gestures and behaviors. What they’re doing doesn’t make much sense sometimes, yet it goes on and on.

What’s happening with youngsters that makes them so hard on themselves? Is there a way to help these young people climb out of the hole they’ve dug for themselves? Can we help them and point them in a more positive and more productive direction? Fortunately, the answer is “Yes.”

Our guest on this program, Leslie Rogers, will help us understand how a child or teen’s negative thoughts, beliefs and feelings can limit their potential and rob them of hope. Leslie will also offer insights into how we can empower these young people to move beyond their self-defeating ways. And, when that happens, EVERYONE wins.

38e7b4fecb5d2b7d3dbeb6ae248076e5Leslie, a mother of four, has long had a passion for the well-being of young people. She knows, first-hand, the sort of self-defeating thoughts and feelings that come at youngsters today from all directions. As a result of what she has gained through her own journey, Leslie shares through her writing, her speaking and her mentoring that young people do have the ability and the power to discover who they are and where they are going.

Leslie is the author of two children’s books, Created to Soar and It is ME. (27:50)

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Change Without Coercion (Guest: Dr. Marvin Marshall)

Coercion as a means of gaining compliance from a child or teen has several drawbacks. For one, pleading, threatening, and similar gestures will only work as long as the pressure is applied. It’s NOT the way to build a close and lasting relationship.

Our guest on this program, Dr. Marvin Marshall, suggests that teaching responsibility brings better and more lasting results than stressing obedience. In this program, he’ll introduce a proactive and totally noncoercive (but not permissive) approach.

Dr. Marshall is the author of the landmark book, Discipline without Stress, Punishments, or Rewards: How Teachers and Parents Promote Responsibility and Learning. His strategies for promoting responsibility and learning are being used in schools and homes around the world.

Dr. Marshall’s informative website is www.MarvinMarshall.com. His many resources for educators and parents can be found at www.PiperPress.com. He has also established the nonprofit foundation located at www.DisciplinewithoutStress.org.

Note: We will be interviewing Dr. Marshall again in the future. In that radio show, he will share more deeply about his work and how it functions. (25:47)

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Compassion Fatigue: Healing the Healer (Guest: Loren Gelberg-Goff)

LorenGphoto Compassion is a good quality for any person to have. But too much compassion for too long can cause one to become dejected and weary. It can even make folks sick as it takes a toll on persons of high purpose and intent.

In being a caregiver of others, either as a family member or as a profession, there will always be a risk for compassion fatigue. How do we recognize it, and how is compassion fatigue managed and treated, or, if possible, avoided? Our guest on this program, psychotherapist Loren Gelberg-Goff, will help us with answers to these very important questions and concerns.

LGGbookAs a licensed clinical socialworker, Loren operates a thriving private practice in which she supports and encourages individuals to live their lives authentically empowered and fulfilled. She also provides training and keynotes on related topics of work and family balance, managing anger, dealing with stress, and expressing forgiveness, just to list a few. Loren is the co-author of the book, Being Well Within: From Distressed to De-Stressed. (The other co-author is Carmel-Ann Mania, also a health service professional.) (26:31)

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What if it’s Not ADHD? (Guest: Frank Barnhill, MD)

There are over 60 medical, psychological, and environmental conditions and circumstances that can mimic the symptoms of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.

What does this mean? It means that almost 2.5 million young people are being misdiagnosed, mismedicated, and wrongly labeled as ADHD. The implications of this are far-reaching and harmful to our children.

In this fast-paced and fact-filled interview, ADHD expert and family practice physican, Dr. Frank Barnhill, describes the problems and concerns associated with a “quick fix,” a hasty diagnosis of ADHD and use of stimulant drugs without benefit of a thorough evaluation. He shares how a wrongful diagnosis in children and teens can lead to employment, legal, and emotional problems in adulthood. He then draws on his 27 years of family medicine to cover important questions parents should ask their doctor to be sure their children are being effectively evaluated and treated for ADHD (29:04).

Dr. Barnhill is the author of the aclaimed book, Mistaken for ADHD. The book, an ADHD blog, and his newsletter, “Living with ADHD,” are all available through his excellent and informative website, www.mistakenforadhd.com.

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