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Giving Children Too Much Power (Christy Monson)

Giving Children Too Much Power, Christy MonsonJonathan, age three, had a sore throat and a hacking cough. He woke up about midnight, coughing and crying. He couldn’t breathe.

Dad held and rocked him for a little while and then gave Jonathan to Mom to cuddle while Dad ran to the store to get medicine.

Power Problems

After Jonathan took the medicine about 2 a.m., he wanted to watch a movie. Dad said it was time for bed, but Jonathan cried. Dad turned on the movie. Mom shook her head in disbelief and went back to bed. At 4 a.m. when the movie was over, Jonathan wanted to play. Dad and Jonathan built a tower of blocks until about 4:30 when Jonathan fell asleep. Dad carried him to the bedroom and then went to bed himself.

Solution: Structured Choices

In a situation like this, Jonathan, at age three, isn’t old enough to have good judgment. Dad and Mom need to be responsible for making these middle-of-the-night decisions. Giving some choices is a good diversionary tactic, especially at 2 a.m. when Jonathan is crying.

Dad can take him to bed, but Jonathan can decide:

Will the bedroom door be open or shut?
Do I want the hall light left on?
Will I snuggle my favorite teddy under the covers or keep him on my pillow?

Family Talk, Christy MonsonChildren need the opportunity to make selections. Learning this skill will be a great benefit to Jonathan as he gets older. A parent can give him the gift of democracy by establishing limited freedom with choices.

Start a Family Council

Family councils are a great place for youngsters like Jonathan to become proficient at decision-making as they up. Councils are a great venue for parents to teach children to brainstorm ideas, single out several choices, and pick the best one. Parents can plan together, work out their parenting styles, and teach their children how to be proactive. ###

Christy Monson has an M.S. in Counseling Psychology and Marriage & Family Therapy from University of Nevada at Las Vegas, and established a successful counseling practice in Las Vegas, Nevada. Check out her informative website [link].

 

Raising Kids That Succeed: When Beliefs Matter (Guest: Dr. Lynn Wicker)

The Changing Behavior NetworkIn this informative and eye-opening interview, Dr. Sutton interviews educator and author, Dr. Lynn Wicker, on the critical parenting characteristics of beliefs, intention and purpose.  The Changing Behavior Network presents “Raising Kids That Succeed: When Beliefs Matter.”

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Beliefs Matter

Dr. Lynn Wicker, Raising Kids That SucceedTo a great extent, our lives follow our beliefs. Strong beliefs can carry us through difficult tasks and difficult times. Weak and ineffective beliefs, on the other hand, can bring failure and disappointment over and over again.

Yes, beliefs matter a great deal, especially when it comes to effective parenting. Few jobs will ever be more important that this one.

Empowering Beliefs

According to our guest on this program, Dr. Lynn Wicker, author of Raising Kids That Succeed, parents that feel empowered and confident in their beliefs as parents will more often see those beliefs contribute powerfully to the success of their children. In fact, Dr. Wicker will share evidence of this truth based on an eye-opening survey she conducted.

Raising Kids That Succeed

Parents that believe they are empowered to raise successful sons and daughters also parent with intent. Dr. Wicker will encourage listeners by sharing how success as a parent comes from day-to-day intent and purpose to fulfill that vital role.

Dr. Lynn Wicker

Raising Kids That Succeed, Dr. Lynn WickerA certified speaker, trainer and success coach, Dr. Wicker has 30 years of experience in public education, where she has held leadership positions in K-12 and higher education, including the directorship of a developmental research school. Dr. Wicker’s passion and purpose in life is to inspire individuals to find their own success and live their lives with purpose. The full title of her book, the one we are featuring on this program, is Raising Kids That Succeed: How to Help Your Kids Overcome Life’s Limitations and Think Their Way to Lifelong Success. (25:44)

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BONUS: Dr. Wicker offers a complimentary download of the introduction and first chapter of Raising Kids That Succeed. [link]

Quick Tip #3: How to Create a Powerful Trigger to Help When A Child is Scared (Michelle Cohen)

BTQuickTipQuick Tips are short, to-the-point audio tips, interventions and strategies intended to help the listener effectively teach a skill or manage an issue with a child or adolescent.

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MCohenPhotoWhen a child is gripped with fear, it is sometimes hard for them to remember the words they could say to make themselves feel better. What if instead, they have practiced a very visceral (and FUN) physical pose that whenever they enact it, they are flooded with positive and empowering feelings that automatically trigger relief from their fear?

In this Quick Tip, author Michelle Cohen shares a forceful technique her clients have used with great success. She calls it the “Power Stance” and it is designed to automatically cause positive emotions to flood through the body, relieving the scary thoughts and helping alleviate anxiety. (3:25)

MCohenbookAuthor Michelle Cohen and her projects have been featured on CNN, Good Morning America, MTV, NPR’s “All Things Considered”, and in People Magazine, Entertainment Weekly, and the Washington Post. Michelle has given thousands of private intuitive guidance sessions, exponentially changing the way her clients perceive themselves in positive and permanent ways. This tip is from her book, Actually, There is Something Under the Bed: A Parent’s Guide to Empowering Their Child in the Dark, available on Amazon. For more information, go to Michelle’s website  [link].

 

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Family Centered Parenting (Dr. Richard Horowitz)

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Dr. Richard Horowitz shares his concerns about the challenges of child rearing in today’s times, and he outlines an effective and meaningful family-centered approach to parenting.

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Parenting can be a difficult, tough and demanding job. After all, our children don’t arrive with instructions. The task of being a parent often is through trial and error, with successes and mistakes being part of the process.

RHorowitzphotoThere’s little doubt that the structure of the family has changed in recent years, putting more challenges on parents than ever before. The good news is that most parents want to do their best in raising and instructing their children and in managing the challenges that crop up along the way.

Our guest on this program, Dr. Richard Horowitz, is the founder of Family Centered Parenting. He has experience and insights on managing critical issues affecting parents today. He will also share how our overall philosophy of behavior and how we communicate with our children can make a tremendous difference in the quality and success of parenting outcomes.

RHorowitzbookphotoDr. Horowitz has been working with children, schools and families for over 35 years. As a professional educator and agency provider, he has filled a variety of roles including teacher, school administrator and CEO of a case management organization. He and his wife, Jane, founded Growing Great Relationships, a coaching/training practice to help families, educators and family support providers who work with young people to face the challenges of parenting, schooling and creating a stable family life.

Dr. Horowitz, a highly evaluated presenter and trainer, is the author of Family Centered Parenting: Your Guide for Growing Great Families. (25:56)

http://www.growinggreatrelationships.com

 

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Break Free of Parental Pressures (Guest: Debbie Pokornik)

DebbiePokornikphotoBeing a responsible parent is a tough enough job without wondering if you are doing the job “right.” But, if you’re a parent, chances are there have been times when you have questioned your decisions and actions regarding your children.

Well, guess what? That’s pretty normal. Even when we try to do the “right” thing as parents, it often doesn’t feel “right” to us. Shouldn’t that matter?

According to our guest on this program, Debbie Pokornik, it matters a lot. Pressures of parenting today cause many moms and dads to second-guess their parenting strategies and skills. As a parent educator and author, Debbie will help us tackle this issue of parental pressures and doubt, and she will share her insights as she offers ways parents can improve their role, and feel better about it.

Debbie Pokornik is the CEO (Chief Empowering Officer) of her company, Empowering NRG. She guides individuals to live empowered lives by helping them disconnect from negative energies like self-doubt, fear and guilt, as they learn to reconnect with their inner wisdom. She is also the author of the award-winning book, Break Free of Parenting Pressures.  (27:53)

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Family Centered Parenting (Guest: Dr. Richard Horowitz)

RHorowitzphotoParenting can be a difficult, tough and demanding job. After all, our children don’t arrive with instructions. The task of being a parent often is through trial and error, with successes and mistakes being part of the process.

There’s little doubt that the structure of the family has changed in recent years, putting more challenges on parents than ever before. The good news is that most parents want to do their best in raising and instructing their children and in managing the challenges that crop up along the way.

Our guest on this program, Dr. Richard Horowitz, is the founder of Family Centered Parenting. He has experience and insights on managing critical issues affecting parents today. He will also share how our overall philosophy of behavior and how we communicate with our children can make a tremendous difference in the quality and success of parenting outcomes.

RHorowitzbookphotoDr. Horowitz has been working with children, schools and families for over 35 years. As a professional educator and agency provider, he has filled a variety of roles including teacher, school administrator and CEO of a case management organization. He and his wife, Jane, founded Growing Great Relationships, a coaching/training practice to help families, educators and family support providers who work with young people to face the challenges of parenting, schooling and creating a stable family life.

Dr. Horowitz, a highly evaluated presenter and trainer, is the author of Family Centered Parenting: Your Guide for Growing Great Families. (25:56)

http://www.growinggreatrelationships.com

 

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Raising Responsible Children: It’s NOT About Rules (Guest: Marvin Marshall)

Sometimes rules are very necessary. How could you ever have a sporting event without rules for the game? But in the raising and teaching of young people, rules and their enforcement can become a sticking point, especially with defiant and difficult youngsters.

So what’s the alternative? According to our guest on this program, Dr. Marvin Marshall, the alernative is responsibility. To fully understand what he means, ask any child or teen, or group of young people, this simple question:

“Had you rather I give you RULES or RESPONSIBILITIES?”

Responsibilities imply willing compliance and self-correcting, self-directed behavior. Rules, by their very nature, imply enforcement and consequences. The job of being Mom or Dad is tough enough without adding Sheriff to the job, also.

In this program, Dr. Marshall will explain his ideas on teaching responsibility, and he will suggest five ways parents can teach and encourage responsible behavior.

Dr. Marvin Marshall is a career educator who writes about and teaches responsibility-based principles for raising and instructing young people. He wrote the landmark book for educators, Discipline without Stress, Punishments, or Rewards, and is also the author of the multiple-award winner for parents, Parenting without Stress: How to Raise Responsible Kids While Keeping a Life of Your Own. (26:12)

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COMING SOON! Growing Up Ziglar: Lessons Learned and Shared, Part One (Guest: Julie Ziglar Norman)